We are not born with courage, but neither are we born with fear.
Life is a passage of time into another world they say. And in this passage of time, life throws up a series of exams…- some trials and hiccups - where we have to prove our competence, our well being, our determination and our IQ.
A student having to appear for his board exams, Surgeons operating for the first time, First time mothers, an unemployed going for an interview to his potential employer, etc – all of them have the symptoms of the exam fear.
Education must prepare us for both academic and life’s exams. We must be able to face them with confidence.
Exam fear can vary from being mild to intense and unmanageable. Exam fear manifests itself physically with nausea, fever, sleepless nights, loss of appetite, troubled thoughts, stomach upsets, headaches and irregular menstrual periods for girls.
In some cases, the fear expresses itself in uncontrollable crying spells and an inability to carry on with regular activities
Here are a few tips in confronting fears
• Always remember to encourage yourself. Be kind to your ego. Encourage yourself in your mind by saying 'you are going to do well'."
• Confidence is something, which a person develops over time. No one can give it you or take it away; it comes from developing the right attitude -- A POSITIVE ATTITUDE.
• Thus the solution to the problem is within you. Having faith in yourself and your potential is important. Feed your faith and your fears will starve to death.
• Learn to relax and control your mind and inner feelings and emotions.
• Try this following simple visualization to let go of fear and anxiety.
1.Find a comfortable & quite place to relax. Close your eyes, keep your back straight & feel your breath on your lips. A thousands thoughts will pass through your mind.
2. Now spend a little time identifying what it is you are currently afraid of.
3. Try to identify your irrational unhealthy fears, such as the fear of exams, the fear of loss, the fear of failure, and so forth.
4. Using your wisdom, try to understand that all these fears arise because of your irrational thinking and of the unknown.
5. Then visualize these fears in the form of dense thick smoke and breathe it out. Imagine the heat leaving your body and reaching to the ends of the earth, never to return, or it dissolving in ice water.
6. As you inhale, imagine you are breathing in all the pure white energy and fearlessness of all holy beings which fills our body and mind.
7. After meditating like this for a while, you will feel that your body and mind are now completely at peace. Say a prayer if needed praising God. Your body will now feel light and supple, and you will feel your mind is clear, peaceful, and fearless.
We can conclude with words from Buddha, The Able One
"Thus, all fears
And all infinite sufferings
Arise from the mind."
. . . it is not possible
To control all external events;
But, if I simply control my mind,
What need is there to control other things?